Training and Experience

A little something about me.

About me


Lorraine Bygrave

Dip.couns, MBACP, MNCS and EMDR Accredited Practitioner

I’m Lorraine an experienced qualified Accredited Counsellor , Psychotherapist, Supervisor, CBT and an Accredited EMDR Europe Practitioner.

I am also an Approved Adoption Counsellor by Barnados LINK.

I offer a friendly, safe and confidential service for people across Essex.

Anger, anxiety, depression, stress, relationship problems are just a few of the issues which I cover.

I have practices in both Benfleet and Southend-on-Sea making it accessible for clients from many locations across Essex.

I have experience in counselling people from the ages of 5 to 85, male, female, individuals, couples and families.

I feel that seeking counselling isn’t a sign of weakness it’s a sign of STRENGTH. It shows that you are unhappy with your life at the moment and that you are ready for CHANGE.

It’s a step in the right direction. I am here for YOU to LISTEN and HELP you find theANSWERS.

One of the hardest things is making that first phone call, I understand how difficult it is but once that call has been made it shows a sign that your inner strength is helping you through.

I cannot tell you what to do do or give you advice but I can help you explore your own thoughts and feelings and develop skills that will help you now and in the future. I will help and support you in finding your own insights and ways of working through your difficulties.

Counselling can help with confidence, communication, assertiveness and anger problems. It can help you to look at things from another perspective.

I am fully insured, a accredited member of The National Counselling Society and a registered member of the BACP of whom which I hold a certificate of proficiency. I also hold an enhanced
DBS certificate for working with children.

I am committed to on-going professional development and regularly attend courses to enhance my knowledge and keep up-to-date with today’s approaches.

What happens…

Firstly an assessment appointment is made, either by email, text or telephone, which ever is more convenient for you.

At the assessment we will discuss your reasons for seeking therapy and what expectations you have and what goals you wish to achieve.

We will also establish whether we feel comfortable working with each other, I will explain to you how I work and set the boundaries.

We will work together to help you find the root of the issues in which you are experiencing, confront them and move forward into a new more satisfying lifestyle, whilst offering a safe environment for you to explore the issues that are affecting your life.

Therapy Approach

I work integratively. This means that I’m able to use a wide range of counselling approaches, which will enable me to assess your needs and offer a unique service to each individual.

I use CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy), TA (Transactional Analysis), SFBT (Solution Focussed Brief Therapy) Person Centred, Pyschodynamic and EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing).

People seek counselling for many types of reasons but they all have one thing in common and that is they are unhappy with the way their lives are and want to change it.

Change can be difficult and can bring up a whole wealth of emotions. I’m here to support you through that journey.

You will be able to discover new skills which you never knew you had.

Seeking counselling is a positive step in the right direction,

Why choose me for counselling?

  • Tailored counselling for each client
  • Friendly
  • Professional
  • Confidential
  • Caring
  • Non-judgemental
  • Fully qualified
  • Fully insured
  • Safe and comfortable environment
  • Provides counselling for all ages
  • DBS checked
  • Member of a Professional Body.
  • Adoption Trained
  • Committed to Ongoing Professional Development

Training, qualifications & experience

Image Transformation Therapy

EMDR Levels 1,2,3 and 4

EMDR Accreditation

Approved by the Police Firearms Officers Association

Approved Adoption Counsellor by Barnardos LINK

Certificate in Counselling Supervision

Practitioner Diploma in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy

Certificate of Proficiency British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy

Level 4 AQA Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling

Level 2 AQA Introduction to Counselling Concepts.

Level 2 AQA Certificate in Counselling Skills

Certificate for Counselling Children and Young People

Certificate for Supporting Substance Misuse Clients Awareness

Certificate for Children Family and Play

Certificate for Safeguarding Children Training

Certificate For Safeguarding of Vulnerable Adults.

Certificate For An Introduction To Family Therapy

Familiar with attachment and trauma, adopted, foster children and their carers.

Certificate of Attendance on Offender Behaviour & Specialist Risk Assessment

Certificate of Attendance on the Management of ADHD and associated problems in Children

Certificate of Attendance For Open Door In House Safeguarding Children and Case Management


Certificate of Attendance For Sexual Health Awareness Foundation Training (SHAFT)

Certificate of Achievement on successful completion of the “Losing The Will To Live: Self Harm and Suicide” Training

Certificate of Attendance Jim Knipe’s “EMDR Toolbox”

AIP Methods for treating Complex PTSD & Dissociative Personality Structure

A weekend with Master EMDR Clinician Jim Knipe

Attachment-Focussed Healing Developmental Deficits and Adults Abused As Children

with Laurel Parnell, Ph.D.

Trained in The Feeling- State Addiction Protocol with Robert Miller, Ph.D.

Trained in Image Transformation Therapy

Trained in Recent Traumatic Events Protocol (RTEP)

Trained in Group Traumatic Events Protocol (GTEP)

Hosted by Trauma Response Network in order to aid immediate responses to Mass Trauma and Acts of Terrorism within the U.K

Eating Disorders and EMDR with Pam Virdi

Re-wiring The Addicted Brain Workshop with Laurel Parnell ph.D


My private practice is Benfleet Counselling and I work with people of all ages covering many different issues.

I work with couples who are experiencing relationship problems and individuals who come to see me with a number of different problems such as depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, low confidence, phobias, bereavement are to name just but a few.

In my private practice I work with EAP’s, schools both primary and secondary and also Banardos LINK where I counsel individuals and families where they have some connection with adoption.

I have experience in working a charity based in Thurrock where I counselled children from the ages of 5 to adolescents to young adults.

I have worked in both primary and secondary schools helping children with lots of different issues, such as parents break-up, bullying, bereavement, low self-esteem, low self confidence and anger management.

I have counselled adults suffering with drug and alcohol addictions.

In addition to this I also counsel residents, staff and relatives of residents who are suffering with dementia at a Dementia Care home based in Leigh on sea Essex.

I offer counselling support with the following issues:

  • Anger issues / Anger management
  • Relationship difficulties
  • Dissatisfaction with life and feeling down
  • Low self esteem
  • Physical and sexual abuse
  • Stress
  • Bereavement
  • Anxiety
  • Depression
  • Work Related Stress
  • Addictions (Drug and Alcohol)
  • Bullying
  • Body Dysmorphia
  • Abuse
  • Flashbacks
  • Phobias
  • Self Harm